历史人物中宽容父母的事例

历史人物中宽容父母的事例
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    马香草

    现代文坛上有关诗人徐志摩的轶闻趣事,占据了媒体的不少篇幅,各类描述诗人的著作也频频见于书店坊间。诗人风花雪夜的故事往往是人们津津乐道的,那些传奇性的诗人往事带上了人们想象的成分,也带上了诸多情感的因素。因此,当人们谈起诗人生前的种种,其褒贬取舍就特别耐人寻味。比如谈起徐志摩,人们不能不提到与诗人缠缠绵绵、说不清理还乱的两个风情万种、美貌动人的女性,一个林徽因,一个陆小曼。对这两个女性,民间、坊间、媒体已经说得够多了,种种版本,繁多传说,公事私事,纷纷扬扬,直把个现代文坛吵得翻天覆地,也让人兴奋不已。对林徽因极力捧杀,对陆小曼极力骂杀,人们却很少用宽容的态度对待不同性格、不同处事方式的两个不同的人物。
      日前读到一册书写陆小曼的传记作品,让我此前对围绕在诗人徐志摩周围的各色人等的印象,有了新的认识,改变了诸多人云亦云、道听途说的观点,也对这位民国大美人多了些了解和理解。《美丽与哀愁:一个真实的陆小曼》,既是陆小曼的传记,更是以传记的方式对陆小曼以及围绕着她的是是非非的文学书写。读罢此书,让我们明白了人可以有多种活法,我们也应当允许生活中有不同个性的人。
      陆小曼的故事并不好写。这不仅在于她的故事带有太多的误读的成分,带上了太多的林徽因的阴影,而且,陆小曼并非文化名人,她更多地生活在诗人徐志摩的名下,她往往只是徐志摩故事中的一个配角,一个附属,因而,人们并没有充分地占有她的材料,也没有真正地研究她的身世、生平。但是,对于读者来说,人们可能并不特意看重她的生平史料是否准确,对她的认识与理解是否正确,人们可能更会关注她的那些富有传奇性的人生故事,那些与徐志摩、张幼仪、林徽因等人之间的各种带有夸张性的情感纠葛。但是,陆小曼既然以一个历史人物出现在文坛上,她就应有自己的性格,有自己的历史评价。正是这样,本书作者对陆小曼的身世、生活道路及其功过是非,以比较客观的笔墨娓娓叙述,既不特意夸张,也不文过饰非,试图剥开包裹在同小曼身上的种种外衣,还原历史还原人物的本来面目。作者既以文学的笔墨书写陆小曼的传奇人生,而又以史家眼光分析陆小曼的性格形成与人生道路。文学与历史相辅相成,相得益彰,塑造出一个真实而光彩照人的民国女子形象。
      在各种徐志摩的传记中,林徽因的端庄、美丽、聪慧以及作为现代建筑学家、诗人的美好传闻,人们不惜把描绘女性的最美好的词汇都送给她。关于她与诗人徐志摩之间暧昧的传闻、猜测更加深了她的神秘感。正是徐志摩与林徽之间的这种若即若离、虚实难辨的故事,映射出了徐志摩身边的陆小曼。人们常常愿意把林、陆二人比较来看,二人相貌、性情、待人接物,对待徐志摩的态度,都成为人们关注的热点。许多读者把林徽因视为人间仙子、圣洁的女神,而却把陆小曼看做世间俗物、风尘女子。但历史往往与人们的想象差距甚远,陆小曼也并非传说中的那样俗不可耐的人物。这位出身于大家庭中的闺秀,受过良好的教育,她的聪慧、机敏,曾受许多人欣赏,也赢得了人们对她的诸多赞美之词。她既是一位美丽、聪慧的女子,有“京城第一美人”之称,也是多才多艺的人物,她的书法以及印章,都透着一种飘逸、轻灵。可以说,徐志摩对陆小曼一见钟情的,不仅是她的相貌,更是她的才华。
      《美丽与哀愁》也不能免俗,抓住了徐志摩与陆小曼的婚恋大做文章,风流倜傥的诗人徐志摩与光彩照人的陆小曼碰撞在一起,正是一道不可不看的风景。他们从恋爱开始就成为人们的话题,徐志摩的浪漫与才情,轻轻地吹进陆小曼心扉的时候,激荡起了陆小曼同样浪漫多情的内心世界。徐志摩所拥有的恰是陆小曼的丈夫王赓所没有的,也是她所渴望得到的,而陆小曼身上那种风情也恰是饥渴中的徐志摩所想要的。于是,他们碰在一起,就像郁达夫所说的那样:“自然要发火花,烧成一片。”本来就引人注目的陆小曼嫁与诗人后,更是名噪大震,一下子就成为上海交际圈中的核心人物,享受了她人生中最为光彩鲜活的一段生活。与其他作品不同的是,本书的作者没有善意渲染徐陆二人婚恋上的传奇色彩,而是努力于一个真实的陆小曼的情感生活。作者既看到了他们之间的幸福,也写出了其中的辛酸,看到了他们生命中的辉煌,也写出了病人迟暮的苍凉。既看到了她在徐志摩遇难后因为生活的拮据而不得不放下尊严与翁瑞午同居,也写出了她为徐志摩而奔走操劳,试图坚守徐夫人的名分。陆小曼幸与不幸、清醒与迷茫、执著与无奈,都在这里显示着她独特的性格魅力。
      历史自有评说。陆小曼的生活史虽然不会对现代文坛产生重大的影响,但公正公平地对待一位曾引起人们关注的人物,让她的故事带给人们更多的美好的回忆,因为,陆小曼就是一本好看的书,跌宕起伏的人生故事,底蕴丰富的人生况味,都可以让我们从《美丽与哀愁》中慢慢品味。

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    1,三国时期的蜀国,在诸葛亮去世后任用蒋琬主持朝政。他的属下有个叫杨戏的,性格孤僻,讷于言语。蒋琬与他说话,他也是只应不答。有人看不惯,在蒋琬面前嘀咕说:“杨戏这人对您如此怠慢,太不象话了!”蒋琬坦然一笑,说:“人嘛,都有各自的脾气秉性。让杨戏当面说赞扬我的话,那可不是他的本性;让他当着众人的面说我的不是,他会觉得我下不来台。所以,他只好不做声了。其实,这正是他为人的可贵之处。”后来,有人赞蒋琬“宰相肚里能撑船”。

    2,蔺相如因为“完璧归赵”有功而被封为上卿,位在廉颇之上。廉颇很不服气,扬言要当面羞辱蔺相如。蔺相如得知后,尽量回避、容让,不与廉颇发生冲突。蔺相如的门客以为他畏惧廉颇,然而蔺相如说:“秦国不敢侵略我们赵国,是因为有我和廉将军。我对廉将军容忍、退让,是把国家的危难放在前面,把个人的私仇放在后面啊!”这话被廉颇听到,就有了廉颇“负荆请罪”的故事。

    3,一天晚上,携爱妃举办烛光晚会,大宴群臣。酒至半酣,忽然一阵大风把蜡烛吹灭。一名武将欲乘黑调戏爱妃,被爱妃一把扯下盔上红缨,爱妃建议楚王即刻点灯,看看哪个家伙盔上红缨已失,严加惩办。朋友妻不可欺呀,何况是领导之妻呢?岂料庄王大度能容,下令众将全都摘去盔上红缨,然后方可点灯。不久,楚王御驾亲征与敌国开战,被困重围,手下兵将四散奔逃,楚王命悬一发,忽然窜出一将拼死力战,保楚王杀出重围,捡回一条性命。楚王激动地说:“别人都自逃性命,唯有爱卿肯舍命救驾,你叫什么?是哪个单位的?”该将答曰:“我就是那日烛光晚会上调戏您媳妇的人啊!”

    4,清朝康熙年间有个大学士名叫张英.一天张英收到家信,说家人为了争三尺宽的宅基地,与邻居发生纠纷,要他用职权疏通关系,打赢这场官司.张英阅信后坦然一笑,挥笔写了一封信,并附诗一首:千里修书只为墙,让他三尺有何妨?万里长城今犹在,不见当年秦始皇.家人接信后,让出三尺宅基地.邻居见了,也主动相让.结果成了六尺巷,这个化干戈为玉帛的故事流传至今.

    5,有一次,理发师正在给周总理刮胡须时,总理突然咳嗽了 一声,刀子立即把脸给刮破了。理发师十分紧张,不知所措, 但令他惊讶的是,周总理并没有责怪他,反而和蔼地对他说: “这并不怪你,我咳嗽前没有向你打招呼,你怎么知道我要动 呢?”这虽然是一件小事,却使我们看到了周总理身上的美 德 —— 宽容。

    6,《东周列国志》还讲了这样一个故事:为了争夺权位,在公子小白回齐国的路上,管仲拈弓搭箭,对准小白射去,公子小白装死,公子小白当上了齐国国君,即齐桓公。他听取了鲍叔牙推荐管仲的意见,管仲帮着齐桓公整顿内政,开发富源,大开铁矿,多制农具,后来齐国就越来越富强了。

    7,林肯总统对政敌素以宽容著称,后来终于引起一议员的不满,议员说:"你不应该试图和那些人交朋友,而应该消灭他们."林肯微笑着回答:"当他们变成我的朋友,难道我不正是在消灭我的敌人吗?"一语中的,多一些宽容,公开的对手或许就是我们潜在的朋友.

    8,红军三军团总指挥彭德怀等30多人前沿察看地形,传令兵手执红 旗边跑边喊让路。只有一个战士坐着不动。彭德怀见人挡路便喊了几句。战士站起来朝彭总 就是两拳。彭总让过他匆匆赶路。事后,传令兵捆来那个战士见彭总。彭总立即让他回去战 士自知闯祸,心里害怕,见彭总毫不在意,深受感动,后来逢人就说:“总指挥真是度量宽 宏呀!” 海纳百川,有容乃大;壁立千仞,无欲则刚。

    明代的张居正在京城做大官,有一次收到家里一封信,原来自己家和邻居为一堵墙发生争执。他当即回信:“来信只为一堵墙,让他三尺又何妨。长城万里今犹在,不见当年秦始皇。”家里收到他的回信,就让出了三尺,邻居也让出了三尺,就成了六尺巷。

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    cc12120

    Modern literary circles of the anecdotes about the poet Hsu Chih-mo's interesting to take a lot of the media coverage, all kinds of describing the poet's works are also frequently seen in bookstores Fangjian. Flower snowy night, the story of the poet wind is that people often talked about, those legendary poets past to bring people to imagine the composition, but also bring a lot of emotional factors. Thus, when people talk about all the poet during his lifetime, which appraise trade-off is particularly intriguing. For example talking about Hsu, one can not fail to mention and poet Chanchanmianmian and refused to clean up and chaotic atmosphere of the two million species, moving beauty of women, a Lin Huiyin, a Lu Xiaoman. These two women, civil society the printing, the media has already said enough, and all kinds of versions, many legends, official personal lives, and there were numerous, straight into a modern literary quarrel earth-shaking, but also people excited. Lin Huiyin a very strong pitch for the right to kill, to kill Lu Xiaoman strongly criticized, it is rarely used and tolerant attitude toward different personalities, different ways of doing things are two different characters.

    Lu Xiaoman recently read a biography written works, so I had right around the poet Hsu Chih-mo various actors around the impression, with a new understanding has changed a lot just repeating hearsay point of view, but also great beauty of the republic have become more understanding and comprehension. "Peony Pavilion: A True Lu Xiaoman," is a biography of Lu Xiaoman, more is the way to the Lu Xiaoman biography and the facts surrounding the literary writing of her right and wrong. After reading the book, so that we can understand a variety of living law, we should be allowed to live in a different personality.

    Lu Xiaoman's story is not good to write. This is not only because it misread the story with too many ingredients, Lin Huiyin bring too many shadows, and, Lu Xiaoman is not a culture of celebrity, and she more lives in the name of the poet Hsu Chih-mo, and she often Hsu story is only a supporting role, a subsidiary, so that people do not fully share her materials, but also did not really look at her life experience, life. However, for readers, and people may not specifically value the life of her historical accuracy of her knowledge and understanding is correct, it could be even more concerned about her sex life of those legendary stories, those relating to Xu, Zhang Youyi , Lin Huiyin and others between the various disputes with the exaggeration of emotion. However, Lu Xiaoman as a historical figure in literary circles, she should have its own personality, its own history of evaluation. It is this way, the book author Lu Xiaoman's life experience, life and their merits and demerits of the road to a more objective description of pen and ink tirelessly, neither deliberately exaggerated and do not pay lip service to try to cut open the body wrapped in all kinds of coat with Xiaoman , restore to restore the historical figure's original state. By not only a literary legend Lu Xiaoman ink writing life, but to historians look analysis of Lu Xiaoman character formation and path in life. Literature and history complement each other and complement each other and create a true and shiny image of Republican Women.

    In a variety of Xu's biography, Lin Huiyin's dignified, beautiful, intelligent, as well as modern architects, the poet's beautiful rumors, people will not hesitate to describe the most beautiful women, all gave her a good vocabulary. With regard to her ambiguous between the poet Xu rumors, speculation deepened her sense of mystery. Xu and Lin is the emblem of this ambiguous on between, actual situation is hard to tell the story, map out the side of Lu Xiaoman Hsu Chih-mo. It is often willing to forest, land and two comparisons, two-person appearance, temperament, interpersonal, towards the attitude of Hsu Chih-mo, have become the focus of attention. Many readers to Huiyin as a human divinity, holy goddess, but as worldly Que Ba Lu Xiaoman vulgarian, kept woman. However, history often far from people's imagination, Lu Xiaoman is not the legendary figure as vulgar. The family came from the lady, well-educated, she's intelligent, astute, who have been many people appreciate, but also has earned her many kind words. She is a beautiful, intelligent woman, the "first beauty capital," said, but also versatile character, her calligraphy, and seal all reveals a kind of elegant, ethereal. It can be said Xu Lu Xiaoman right love at first sight, not only her appearance, but also her talent.

    "Peony Pavilion" are no exception, seized Hsu and Lu Xiaoman's Marriage a big fuss, suave romantic poet Hsu Chih-mo and shiny, Lu Xiaoman crash together, it is a must-see scenery. They love the beginning become the topic of romantic and talented Xu, Lu Xiaoman gently flowing into the heart of the time, stirring effect of Lu Xiaoman the same romantic sentimental inner world. Xu exactly is owned by the husband of Wang Geng Lu Xiaoman not available, and it is her desire to be, but Lu Xiaoman body style is also precisely the kind of hunger in the Xu want. As a result, they touched each other, as did Yu Da-fu said: "naturally-sparking, burning one." Inherently compelling Lu Xiaoman married and poet, the more Mingzao earthquake, and it would communication circles in Shanghai's central figure, and enjoyed live her life the most glorious period of life. With the other works difference is that the author of this book is not in good faith rendering Xu Lu Marriage on the legendary duo, but efforts on a real emotional life of Lu Xiaoman. Author has seen the well-being between them, but also to write the bitterness of them saw their lives in the glory, but also to write the patient's old age and the desolation. Hsu has seen her after death because of the constraints of life had to lay down their dignity and WENG Rui afternoon cohabitation, but also to write her running for Hsu Chih-mo and physical exertion, trying to stick to Ms. Xu dubbing. Lu Xiaoman fortune or misfortune, clear-headed and confused, tenacity and helplessness, are shown here with her unique and charismatic.

    History of its own User Notes. Lu Xiaoman's life cycle while not a significant impact on the modern literary scene, but the fair and equitable treatment of a figure has attracted people's attention, so her story gives people more of the good memories, because Lu Xiaoman is a good-looking book, the ups and downs of the life story of inside information-rich flavor of life situation, can give us from the "Peony Pavilion" in taste slowly.现代文坛上有关诗人徐志摩的轶闻趣事,占据了媒体的不少篇幅,各类描述诗人的著作也频频见于书店坊间。诗人风花雪夜的故事往往是人们津津乐道的,那些传奇性的诗人往事带上了人们想象的成分,也带上了诸多情感的因素。因此,当人们谈起诗人生前的种种,其褒贬取舍就特别耐人寻味。比如谈起徐志摩,人们不能不提到与诗人缠缠绵绵、说不清理还乱的两个风情万种、美貌动人的女性,一个林徽因,一个陆小曼。对这两个女性,民间、坊间、媒体已经说得够多了,种种版本,繁多传说,公事私事,纷纷扬扬,直把个现代文坛吵得翻天覆地,也让人兴奋不已。对林徽因极力捧杀,对陆小曼极力骂杀,人们却很少用宽容的态度对待不同性格、不同处事方式的两个不同的人物。
      日前读到一册书写陆小曼的传记作品,让我此前对围绕在诗人徐志摩周围的各色人等的印象,有了新的认识,改变了诸多人云亦云、道听途说的观点,也对这位民国大美人多了些了解和理解。《美丽与哀愁:一个真实的陆小曼》,既是陆小曼的传记,更是以传记的方式对陆小曼以及围绕着她的是是非非的文学书写。读罢此书,让我们明白了人可以有多种活法,我们也应当允许生活中有不同个性的人。
      陆小曼的故事并不好写。这不仅在于她的故事带有太多的误读的成分,带上了太多的林徽因的阴影,而且,陆小曼并非文化名人,她更多地生活在诗人徐志摩的名下,她往往只是徐志摩故事中的一个配角,一个附属,因而,人们并没有充分地占有她的材料,也没有真正地研究她的身世、生平。但是,对于读者来说,人们可能并不特意看重她的生平史料是否准确,对她的认识与理解是否正确,人们可能更会关注她的那些富有传奇性的人生故事,那些与徐志摩、张幼仪、林徽因等人之间的各种带有夸张性的情感纠葛。但是,陆小曼既然以一个历史人物出现在文坛上,她就应有自己的性格,有自己的历史评价。正是这样,本书作者对陆小曼的身世、生活道路及其功过是非,以比较客观的笔墨娓娓叙述,既不特意夸张,也不文过饰非,试图剥开包裹在同小曼身上的种种外衣,还原历史还原人物的本来面目。作者既以文学的笔墨书写陆小曼的传奇人生,而又以史家眼光分析陆小曼的性格形成与人生道路。文学与历史相辅相成,相得益彰,塑造出一个真实而光彩照人的民国女子形象。
      在各种徐志摩的传记中,林徽因的端庄、美丽、聪慧以及作为现代建筑学家、诗人的美好传闻,人们不惜把描绘女性的最美好的词汇都送给她。关于她与诗人徐志摩之间暧昧的传闻、猜测更加深了她的神秘感。正是徐志摩与林徽之间的这种若即若离、虚实难辨的故事,映射出了徐志摩身边的陆小曼。人们常常愿意把林、陆二人比较来看,二人相貌、性情、待人接物,对待徐志摩的态度,都成为人们关注的热点。许多读者把林徽因视为人间仙子、圣洁的女神,而却把陆小曼看做世间俗物、风尘女子。但历史往往与人们的想象差距甚远,陆小曼也并非传说中的那样俗不可耐的人物。这位出身于大家庭中的闺秀,受过良好的教育,她的聪慧、机敏,曾受许多人欣赏,也赢得了人们对她的诸多赞美之词。她既是一位美丽、聪慧的女子,有“京城第一美人”之称,也是多才多艺的人物,她的书法以及印章,都透着一种飘逸、轻灵。可以说,徐志摩对陆小曼一见钟情的,不仅是她的相貌,更是她的才华。
      《美丽与哀愁》也不能免俗,抓住了徐志摩与陆小曼的婚恋大做文章,风流倜傥的诗人徐志摩与光彩照人的陆小曼碰撞在一起,正是一道不可不看的风景。他们从恋爱开始就成为人们的话题,徐志摩的浪漫与才情,轻轻地吹进陆小曼心扉的时候,激荡起了陆小曼同样浪漫多情的内心世界。徐志摩所拥有的恰是陆小曼的丈夫王赓所没有的,也是她所渴望得到的,而陆小曼身上那种风情也恰是饥渴中的徐志摩所想要的。于是,他们碰在一起,就像郁达夫所说的那样:“自然要发火花,烧成一片。”本来就引人注目的陆小曼嫁与诗人后,更是名噪大震,一下子就成为上海交际圈中的核心人物,享受了她人生中最为光彩鲜活的一段生活。与其他作品不同的是,本书的作者没有善意渲染徐陆二人婚恋上的传奇色彩,而是努力于一个真实的陆小曼的情感生活。作者既看到了他们之间的幸福,也写出了其中的辛酸,看到了他们生命中的辉煌,也写出了病人迟暮的苍凉。既看到了她在徐志摩遇难后因为生活的拮据而不得不放下尊严与翁瑞午同居,也写出了她为徐志摩而奔走操劳,试图坚守徐夫人的名分。陆小曼幸与不幸、清醒与迷茫、执著与无奈,都在这里显示着她独特的性格魅力。
      历史自有评说。陆小曼的生活史虽然不会对现代文坛产生重大的影响,但公正公平地对待一位曾引起人们关注的人物,让她的故事带给人们更多的美好的回忆,因为,陆小曼就是一本好看的书,跌宕起伏的人生故事,底蕴丰富的人生况味,都可以让我们从《美丽与哀愁》中慢慢品味。

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